It’s Never too Early to Have The Talk

We are often asked by adult children how to talk to their parents about senior living and when it should happen. It’s a huge life transition for all involved and for those of us with stubborn parents, it can be an incredibly touchy subject. But aging is inevitable and being prepared and creating an open line of communication can make the process a lot easier.

So how do you have The Talk?

Be Proactive

It’s never too early to have The Talk. Cognitive and physical changes can come on suddenly and you’ll be in a much better position if you plan for them. Nothing is more stressful than making a life changing decision by a hospital bed. 

This doesn’t have to be a topic of discussion around the Thanksgiving dinner table. But find a time where key decision makers are together and start asking questions. 

Be Open

These aren’t fun things to talk about. Nobody wants to think about injury or cognitive decline or death. But they happen to all of us. Facing up to the possibility of these events and talking openly about them can help us navigate how we are going to handle them.

This isn’t just about what an older adult needs, it’s also what they want. Their wishes and their hopes. Coming to the conversation with an open mind and open heart will help you get the right answers.

Be Prepared

You’re reading this blog, so you’re already heading in the right direction! Do your research. Find out where all the documents are – bank statements, VA paperwork, wills. Who is the Power of Attorney and are there Advance Directives? Get your legal paperwork in order and ready. If there are gaps, now is the time to fix them. 

Be Loving

Finally, come to the table with a loving heart, both for your parent and yourself. Being a caregiver is no joke – it’s an unpaid job that can consume us. But we do this because we care. 

This isn’t a “get in the car, we’re off to the nursing home!” situation. We want our parents to know that we do love them and we want to make decisions that honor that love.